• rottingleaf@lemmy.world
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    3 days ago

    They don’t tell me everything, and they frequently lie, but I’m present enough to pick up on trends.

    To be good enough you just have to be better than the parents who first ask people from outside, like teachers, and then ask their kids for control and still believe them less. OK, that’s my flashbacks again.

    • sugar_in_your_tea@sh.itjust.works
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      3 days ago

      The trick, IMO, is to look past the things that don’t matter and only call them out when it does. Then casually mention that you know they lie other times, so they never know exactly how much you pick up on.

      Don’t blindly trust your kid or a random other adult, take the time to hear both sides, and simply state how things ought to be. It’s best if you can find something you can agree w/ from both sides that are relevant, so both sides know they’re being heard.