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  • I’ve been running mail servers for about thirty years; my personal ones and production for 100K+ users.

    The personal one is a pain for the reasons you mentioned. I use sendmail instead of postfix, but I was able to use some rules to push certain messages through other relays.

    I signed up for Amazon SES and have so far stayed in their free tier. Mail coming from one of my addresses always goes through SES, and mail from any address to certain domains (aol.com, gmail.com, etc.) go through SES as well.

    It allows me to ensure delivery for my important mails, but leave things up to chance for less important ones.

    It’s the best solution I’ve been able to come up with for a really annoying situation. Big Tech ruined it all.






  • I’ve been using my own cloud-hosted SMTP relay and Zimbra server for over a decade now, and I love it.

    There can be a bit of a learning curve, and in some cases sites won’t accept mail from cloud-hosted domains. I add those domains to a rule in sendmail that sends those domains through Amazon SES, and then they get accepted.

    If you do go this route, just make sure that your recovery emails or 2FA for things like your registrar go somewhere else. If your cloud provider pulls the plug on you or something you don’t want to be stuck waiting for an email that can’t arrive.

    I love the level of control that I have over my email and wouldn’t have it any other way.

    tl;dr: steep learning curve, but worth it in the long run. Keep gmail as a recovery/2FA account or something, though.