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  • If they can’t handle baby level memes like this they’re not cut out to do anything other than teach suburbanites basic emotional regulation. Which like, there’s a need for that. But the average therapist isn’t going to be deeply disturbed or anything like that, they spend classroom time studying how mental health issues distort your perception and thinking. Usually not via memes, but this is just the picture book version of showing a therapist your journal.

    Edit: also, the fear that your therapist will ‘fire’ you or otherwise react badly if you are completely honest about your mental health is something to discuss with a therapist, too! It’s a really common fear and they should be able to address your concerns.



















  • As long as you’re having these conversations with him regularly, I wouldn’t say that you’re being passive or morally obligated to cut off your communication with him or anything like that. Consistent outreach has value and it doesn’t mean you’re enabling anything.

    But if your conscience is screaming at you that this is a hard line the friendship is never going to recover from, don’t torture yourself trying to fix it either.


  • I’m sorry you’re going through this. Cutting people out of your life hurts even when it’s the right call, and it sucks things have deteriorated to the point of considering it.

    I think the gut reaction a lot of people are going to have is to dump him, both because they think it’s the right thing to do and because it’s easy to say that when you’re not cutting an important person out of your own life. And I don’t think that’s a wrong impulse, but before going for the nuclear option, let’s at least take a look at what other options are available to you.

    You mention he makes money in some way off Musk. To shift your perspective, what that means is you have access to someone that makes Musk money, who presumably also considers you a friend and values you. What is going to have the highest chance of success of convincing him to stop doing business with Musk?

    You’re the one that knows him, nobody here can give a better answer than you. If you think that cutting him off cold turkey is going to be a real wake up call to him, then it might be the right way to go.

    But be sure that’s what it is, and not that you don’t want to put in the work of having hard, uncomfortable conversations about it. Staying his friend (or at least in contact with him) but not censoring your opinion about Musk and the fact that it lowers your opinion of your friend might be more persuasive than you being out of his life and not kicking up a fuss. Again, you’re going to know better than anyone here since you know him.



  • Either that or they’re literally too daft to understand why trans people would rather see a hundred people with wEiRd PrOnOuNs who may or may not be trolling than see a single person appointing themselves the pronoun police.

    Like, it’s not showing me anything I didn’t already know, it’s just ugly to see. Not to get on the soapbox too much, but I think medicalization* of transness and the portrayal of the noble suffering trans person as an archetype kind of inevitably leads to this Very Serious interpretation of gender identity that is just as oppressive as Evangelical takes on gender. Sorry if anyone got the wrong impression, but “MTF + FTM + nonbinary are All The Genders” wasn’t actually what anyone involved in trans liberation was ever fighting for. If this makes (general) you mad, go make that your problem instead of mine.

    And I say that as someone that needed surgery and HRT! It will probably actually kill me if HRT gets banned in the US, I’m not saying this as someone with no skin in it. They’re not taking anything from me by existing, and if seeing them makes you go “holy shit we’ve gotta shut this whole trans thing down” then you were always my enemy.

    \*

    That is, treating transness as a medical condition and nothing more, not that any medical treatment for trans people is bad.