Dont have sex with assholes. Because while you stood your ground regarding the use of barriers, afterwards you obviously still feel bad and unsure about yourself. Also if you meet him again, he most likely will keep pushing you to not use a condom.
Also the way the dude acted makes me assume he actually sucks at sex, because he seems selfish, inconsiderate and also uneductated regarding safer sex practices.
Maybe it can be one day but right now it’s 100% not production-grade software.
Why should we only use “production-grade software” software on the Fediverse? Isnt the beauty that we can use all kind of software as long as it interacts decently via the relevant protocols?
Also I am already using Lemmy, which is pretty known for its opinionated devs. This does not seem to be anything that would stop, especially when I can actually read the code as its in a language I can atleast understand somewhat
To me this person sounds like they have too many big projects at once. I wish them success tho
He treates you badly and now you feel bad. Thats totally normal and okay. Now my suggestion would be to put a stop to this bad treatment of you blocking his private contact and staying professional at your org. That sends a clear enough message