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  • scops@reddthat.comtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•What are some Movies/TV shows that you initially didn't like (and perhaps even quit watching), but then end up liking it?English
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    2 days ago

    The first season of Spartacus. My dad recommended it and I tried watching the first few episodes. Spartacus gets his ass kicked a lot at the start of the show. You’d get a glimmer of hope, then he’d fuck up and nearly die again. My dad insisted it would get better and I watched one more episode and he has his first victory in the arena. I stuck with it from there and thoroughly enjoyed the rest of the first season and the prequel season.

    RIP Andy Whitfield. I tried watching the third season which picks the story back up after the first, but I just couldn’t get into it. I don’t think it was necessarily Liam McIntyre’s fault, the show just lost it’s rhythm after the setting change.

  • scops@reddthat.comtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•To the LGBT and particularly trans people, how are you holding up these days?English
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    4 days ago

    I’m poly, my girlfriend is married to a woman. They have been looking hard at contingency plans. One of them is eligible for dual-citizenship due to ancestry and is looking into that process, and they have confirmed with friends in another country that they could rent a room with them if necessary.

    A couple weeks ago, she asked me if I would marry her in the event they felt the need to divorce and “go undercover” looking more heteronormative.

    They are scared. They feel like they are not that far removed from the “kind of person” who might be next up for disappearances by our current government.

  • scops@reddthat.comtoAsk Lemmy@lemmy.world•*Permanently Deleted*English
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    1 month ago

    Polyamory is a bit like gender identity or sexual orientation. Some people (like me) are just not wired for full-time monogamous nesting relationships in the same way that a straight person isn’t likely to feel sexual attraction to a member of the same sex. Consider how you might feel if your daughter came out as gay, or non-binary. Would your reaction be different?

    She’s still growing and developing. I think one of the biggest changes between our generation (X, Millenial, maybe older end of Z) and the younger generation is that there isn’t this fear or stigma about trying out alternative lifestyles. It doesn’t mean that they are inherently more or less likely to be queer or non-monogamous, it means they are more free to try these identities on and see if they fit with a reduced risk of being socially ostracized.

    It’s very possible that your daughter is just trying this out. Completely independent of your reaction, it is completely feasible that she determines that she (or her partner(s)) figure out that it is not a good fit on her/their own. Regardless of that outcome, your behavior around this will affect your relationship with her. You can be uncomfortable, you can even communicate to her that you are uncomfortable, as long as you still give her space to explore, and I think she will continue to confide in you and trust you with this kind of access into her life as she matures into an adult.

    For what it’s worth, I think most people assume monogamy is a default, but I believe it should be a conscious choice. It is absolutely the best choice for MOST people, but I think we would all be happier if we navigated into our relationship styles based on informed decisions, rather than societal expectations.