It wasn’t a good idea to call people eggs before and it’s an even worse idea now. That said, I hope “skirtcurious” catches on :3

  • SpookyBogMonster@lemmy.ml
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    I mean, you shouldn’t harass people on the internet, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with telling people that being trans is a thing they might be.

    Being queer isn’t a math problem inside your heart that you, and you alone, as an atomized individual, must find the perfect solution to. People are social creatures and sometimes that outside perspective can help people figure their shit out.

    This whole “egg prime derective” mumbo jumbo feels like coming out, and everyone around you saying “yeah, we knew! :)” Damn, that’s crazy, I wish y’all told me sooner

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      It’s like the Star Trek prime directive; it’s a guideline that can be broken, not an absolute rule. You can tell someone that they might be trans if it’s clear that it’s the push they need. However, you do need to make sure that they’ll be receptive to the idea before you say anything. At the end of the day, it’d just be your judgement, and your judgement could be wrong.

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      When someone is just told they are trans, that opens ground for denial; it activates defense mechanisms built by internalized transphobia, and it has a high probability of pushing them further into the closet, if not making them outright transphobic. Even when it doesn’t, it leaves ground for their own subconscious to reject their dysphoria, claiming that they were just manipulated or deceived. The much more effective strategy is to talk about your own experiences with dysphoria so that they see the common grounds and come to their own conclusion about their gender.

      https://genderdysphoria.fyi/en/am-i-trans


      looks a community name

      Not everybody is aware where exactly they are