Mutual aid spam is becoming a problem on the Fediverse.

And to be sure, I’m not against mutual aid. What I am against is spam.

This person has not verified who she is – or even if the profile picture is hers. Additional research on her name states she is a scammer with a record of grifting. I am therefore skeptical that any donations will help anyone in need.

Folks, please be cautious with mutual aid requests. Yes, people sometimes need help. But people also lie.

@fediverse@lemmy.world

  • rarbg@lemmy.zip
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    17 days ago

    Lol, comments in this thread forgot the ‘mutual’ part of ‘mutual aid’ and miss the point of this post (scams in mutual aid groups)

    If you think mutual aid is a one-way street (/ don’t benefit from it), is not for you, block and move on

  • brucethemoose@lemmy.world
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    18 days ago

    Yep.

    I feel the fediverse should lean towards “overly aggressive” when combatting spam, before it takes root, even with all the negatives that brings.

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      18 days ago

      I agree. E-mail is the original federated service. And 50 years later e-mail spam remains a big problem. I hope Fedi projects can get spam mitigations on-par with email before spammers start getting serious about this place.

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        18 days ago

        I’d argue that telephones are the original federated service. There were fits and starts to getting the proprietary Bell/AT&T network to play nice with devices or lines not operated by them, but the initial system for long distance calling over the North American Numbering Plan made it possible for an AT&T customer to dial non-AT&T customers by the early 1950’s, and set the groundwork for the technical feasibility of the breakup of the AT&T/Bell monopoly.

        We didn’t call it spam then, but unsolicited phone calls have always been a problem.

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          18 days ago

          What we really need (and have always needed) is an update to the legal frameworks that classify what networks are and what protections are in place for users to ensure interoperability. The Internet has been the wild west for too bloody long, and the extractors and their monopolies need to be put away. That’s why they have been so happy to jump in with Donny Diaper at this point, because he’s letting them not only continue with impunity, but bring back company scrip.

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    18 days ago

    I don’t think mutual aid can work well like that on the internet. Works great in person, works OK for GoFundMe-type stuff like “I had something happen to me that will take a lot of money to fix”. Too easy to scam and grift for small stuff like this though, where for all you know they’re just a very clever dog on the internet.

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      18 days ago

      Charity is not the same as mutual aid anyways, even though I have also seen “mutual aid” requests on the Fediverse that were clearly asking for charity.

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            18 days ago

            Can you just tell me lmao i dont wanna read an essay

            • TwiddleTwaddle@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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              18 days ago

              Well you asked a question with a complicated answer. Dean Spade is a prolific and respected writer and organizer, and his thoughts on the matter are relatively concise compared to the volumes upon volumes written by his predecessors in anarchist thought.

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              18 days ago

              Mutual aid is a form of [collaborative] political participation in which people take responsibility for caring for one another and changing political conditions, not just through symbolic acts or putting pressure on their representatives in government but by actually building new social relations that are more survivable.

              Charity comes with eligibility requirements that relate to these moral frameworks of deservingness, such as sobriety, piety, curfews, participation in job training or parenting courses, cooperation with the police, or identifying the paternity of children.
              Nonprofitization has reproduced antidemocratic, racist, and colonial relationships between the winners and losers of extractive, exploitative economic arrangements.

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      18 days ago

      I don’t think mutual aid can work well like that on the internet. Works great in person,

      That can be an incredibly privileged position to be in to say. Some people are in situations so bad in their meatspace life that “the random internet” is actually more trustworthy.

  • _cryptagion [he/him]@lemmy.dbzer0.com
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    18 days ago

    I see a lot of people asking for mutual aid, and it’s often “I’ve had a hard day and just want some McDonalds, please help”

    OK, that’s not mutual aid, and you shouldn’t be asking for that under that hashtag. if you need help paying your rent, or with gas money so you don’t lose your job, that’s something that appropriate for mutual aid. asking for money for vices should be something you do off the hashtag, or on your OF or something. mutual aid is for people helping where they can, when they can, for problems that are serious and life-altering. and nothing else.

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      18 days ago

      One problem with reporting private messages on Lermy is, as an admin i don’t see who sent the message. I only see who reported it. And i don’t have any actlon available, other than marking the report as handled.

      with reported posts, i can ban the poster. With reported messages i’d have to ask the reporter who it was, trust their answer, search for the account manually and then i could ban. Not really efficient or fast if there ever was a spam wave.

      of course sparmers could then just register a new account on a open instance and i might need to defederates which would lead to a fractured landscape of spammy open instances and likely inactive private instances.

      there’s also not even rudimantary spam filtering in lemmy.

      The main saving grace is that Lemmy is too small to attract a ton of spam yet.

      maybe some of the above is just due my pick of clients (jerboa and the web interface), and there’s better tools? If so, i’d love to hear. But as things stand right now, there’s a lot to be desired

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        18 days ago

        I wish I had approximately double the hours in a given day, and also vastly more coding skill to help in meaningful ways.

        It seems sort of odd that comments or messages reported for spam don’t offer any tools. Even a simple url pattern match that gives mods/admins the ability to click a checkbox to remember the link and take some predefined action in the future would be a rudimentary but effective option.

        I mean, heck, it’s the fediverse. In my fantasy implementation of an anti-spam approach, it would be possible to federate these lists of untrusted links and assign consensus-based confidence scores for links generated from moderator actions across instances. (With options for instance admins to tailor their own trust scores of other instances, so that each instance can choose for themselves who they trust, just in case a couple rogue instance admins try to poison the spam filter.)
        Same concept can be applied to banned accounts, although in that circumstance, I’d suggest they find a way to mask the email address when sharing it. Not that folks won’t just spin up a new email. But, you know. Something is better than nothing.

        Hopefully that makes sense. I’m losing my mind with sleep deprivation.

  • Furbag@lemmy.world
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    18 days ago

    “Mutual aid”? Is that what scammers are calling it now? What exactly is “mutual” about this interaction?

    I don’t think there’s anything wrong with creating a community where people who are struggling financially can ask for help or plug their GoFundMe or whatever, but allowing these guys to essentially cold call individuals with DMs/Mentions is unacceptable.

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    18 days ago

    Yeah, mutual aid works on the local level or in insular communities like long-term discord groups with a tight group of regular members. With community mutual aid, I’m generally in favor of just taking people at their word. If they say they need help, give them help. No need to interrogate them like the food stamp office will. You prevent people from abusing the system by simply not granting endless requests from the same person. Or if someone needs severe aid, at that point you can start actually verifying their story, helping them access government benefits, helping them find employment, etc.

    But that kind of open approach works for in-person aid. It doesn’t work for anonymous online aid, where someone can use bots to spin up hundreds of convincing profiles each begging for money.

    I just don’t think mutual aid works well in an online context. The only online context it works in is among communities like small discord groups where people know each other for years. But on a lemmy or mastadon-type service? Mutual aid is impractical. Any people asking for aid should be directed to local groups that can help them in person.

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    18 days ago

    At the beginning of the pan, someone was selling nudes to cover expenses. I think I sent twenty bucks because I could and she was cute and whatever. But then the person started messaging me about trying to get more money (for her and her sister) and it just felt like a scam and I became very cynical about it.

    Btw, I slept funny last night and I have a neck cramp. Please send money. /s

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    18 days ago

    I was just offered 500$ to be someone’s friend. Of course, I refused - my friendship is worth much more than that!

    But it’s… concerning that we’ve got this sudden spike in spam.

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      The great thing about the fediverse is that it is harder to censor: as long as you find one instance where you can publish some information, you can publish it.

      The bad thing about the fediverse is that it is also harder to moderate: as long as a spammer or troll finds one instance from which they can send unwanted messages, they will be able to send them.

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    18 days ago

    Yeah, the other day I saw a lot of posts like “I am from palestine, my home is destroyed please donate to help”… Spam is probably the significant problem on fedi

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      17 days ago

      Funnily enough, I haven’t seen many instances delicated to just spam, like there was conerns about. Its mostly from .world or mastodon.social

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    18 days ago

    Yep I’ve already gotten a couple messages like this with an image of a random lady attached:

    Hi, I’m Nicole! I’m a proud Polish girl from Toronto (29 y/o)

    I’m currently taking the pre-health sciences program at George Brown College hoping to get into the medical field someday!

    You can add me on Friendica: [REDACTED]

    and join my discord here: [REDACTED]

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      Hi, I’m Nicole wizardbeard! I’m a proud aromatic Polish Abyssal girl tube sock with googly eyes from Toronto the space between your walls (29 y/o 50 ft)

      I’m currently taking the pre-health sciences program at George Brown College socks from your dryer hoping to get into the medical field find a broodmother for the spawn that will form the ranks of my holy army someday!

      You can’t add me on Friendica. It’s far too late for that. Far far too late for anyone to do anything to stop this.

      Your socks may be returned to you but they may never be the same.

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    @atomicpoet @fediverse

    Thankfully that would almost certainly be a scam in my country and many others.

    I am an asthmatic. Well controlled by a thrice daily cocktail of medicines. All free at the point of need. Paid for by our taxes.

    The true scandal is the countries that make this plea possible.

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    18 days ago

    Is it weird that I’ve never heard this term “mutual aid” before this thread but apparently everyone here knows all about it?

    Anyway. There’s just no way I’d give real money to someone asking for it like this because for every real person there must be a dozen scammers at least. It honestly seems crazy to me that this could work and people could send money.

    If people are giving money away like this then they’re part of the problem IMO. You’re encouraging scammers, and perpetuating the practice, diverting money away from the people who actually need it.

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      18 days ago

      Mutual aid is not giving random internet assholes money because they begged for it. I’m not saying they should be banned from doing so, but calling it mutual aid is 100% a scam. Mutual aid is given freely, within a pre-established network.

      Hosting a friend on your couch for a week cause they’re in between apartments is mutual aid. Feeding your friends without expecting anything in return is mutual aid. Enabling e-begging is not mutual aid.

    • PyroNeurosis@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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      18 days ago

      It isn’t really that odd, considering you’ve only been here a couple of weeks. Mutual Aid is a foundational idea in most if not all anarchist projects and theory.

      There may be many scammers, yes, but the goal remains the same - get help to those who need it from those in a position to give it.

      As for being part of the problem, I must disagree. Scammers aren’t leeching just this, they’d be present in any system purporting to help others (in gov’t systems this is called fraud), the goal of these grassroots aid projects is to help those who fall through the cracks of more formalized systems and decentralize some aid in case the church/NGO/gov’t can’t or won’t help (see the Hurricane Helene/Katrina responses when FEMA is overwhelmed).

      Means-testing recipients is kinda a dick move anyway: those who have demonstrable need will have a harder time getting aid and time/money that should be spent helping are now spent with verification.

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        18 days ago

        Hah.

        I’ve probably been kicking around the fediverse longer than you, it’s just this particular account that’s only a few weeks old.

        Anyhow, feel free to continue giving money to people asking for it on lemmy i guess.

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      18 days ago

      I first heard it in 2019 or 2020 from the queer community but I have a feeling it has deeper roots

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      18 days ago

      Is it weird that I’ve never heard this term “mutual aid” before this thread but apparently everyone here knows all about it?

      May be an American thing? I don’t know have never heard of it or encountered it.

      • ZombiFrancis@sh.itjust.works
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        Americans have had to invent novel terms to avoid using the ‘s’ or ‘c’ word with politics. ‘Mutual aid’ is a term usually used to refer tk grassroots organizing of communities to cover basic needs like food and medicine.

        Referring to a common internet scam as ‘mutual aid’ is doing more work to smear the term than anything.