Just for clarification anyone who expresses hostility or invalidation towards people who “want” to be any specific identity, will be immediately and permanently banned. This is a transmedicalist gatekeeping mentality that frankly isn’t supported here, or on blahaj as a whole. If a person wants to be some gender identity, and they identify that way, it is valid and to be respected no ands, ifs, or buts.
I know OP was talking about an internal process that happens but I felt that this needed to be said, because this type of thinking process arises because of that type of gatekeeping.
It took me a while to realize something was different about me because I’d want to be a woman or feminine but didn’t feel dysphoric about my masculinity.
If you swap the words cis and trans in this, it’s just as absurd. Respect yourself. Be who you want to be. Trans, cis, be the dinosaur astronaut you wanted to be when you were four years old. The mere act of asking yourself what you want and really listening to the answer is all the permission you need.
Not disagreeing with your point, just want to point out some people who grew up in a very repressed environment can really struggle with figuring out what they even internally want to be. Sometimes it’s a situation that triggers the thought and they reactionarily stuff that right back down. I get that that’s a different situation that what your talking about here, I’m not disagreeing with what you’re saying.
