By specific, I mean not general fears like fear of heights or spiders.

  • 74 183.84@lemm.eeEnglish
    12·
    14 hours ago

    I dont want to hold babies. I have a fear that I will drop it and I am not sure what I would say to the parents. Im not sure what is going to happen when I have kids

    • MajorHavoc@programming.dev
      2·
      3 hours ago

      Im not sure what is going to happen when I have kids

      For me, it went like this:

      • I’m afraid I’ll drop or hurt this tiny helpless child.
      • But this tiny helpless child can’t even go drink milk by itself.
      • I guess I can only make things better helping it get milk. I’ll just be really careful.
      • That wasn’t so bad. I guess I can do this.

      Then repeat in stages every 15 minutes or so as it needs diapers, or cuddles to warm up, or cleaned, or milk again, or diapers again.

      Until eventually I’m confidently picking it up in a moment of complete terror so that it won’t run out into traffic.

      • 74 183.84@lemm.eeEnglish
        2·
        3 hours ago

        This does make me feel better. My wife keeps saying I need to hold babies to get over it (I suppose similar to your experience, hold it and realize it ain’t that bad). We’ll see how it goes. I don’t plan on having kids until I finish grad school though so I do have some time to prepare myself to face my fear: baby droppin. Thank you kind stranger for the words of wisdom