If you’re a terrible petson, maybe don’t follow that advice. For example, if you find yourself seig hailing, ever, maybe try being someone better.
Neurodivergent people feel this
“Just be yourself” is not socially acceptable.
It is ALWAYS bad advice. “Be yourself” is the most pointless thing to say to anyone. It doesn’t help the recipient at all. Same for “be a better person”. You could say “be genuine” and that would be slightly more helpful.
From my background in education: under-performers tend to be poor judges of their position, tend to have no idea what good performance looks like or how to get there, and tend to surround themselves with similar under-performers. So someone who is underperforming in a social role (making friends, fitting into their work place, dating, etc) needs a lot more focused and good quality feedback.
It works fine for people who are Neurotypical. However, chances are you don’t need to give social advise to a neurotypical person.
you don’t need to give social advise to a neurotypical person
Supremely disagree.
Here’s a podcast episode I’ve heard today to illustrate the example of just how bad most “neurotypical” can be with simple social interactions:
Hidden Brain: We Need to Talk
Episode webpage: https://hiddenbrain.org/podcast/we-need-to-talk/
Honestly, sometimes I wonder how much of neurotypicality is just a myth. I don’t know many neurotypical people, and the ones I do know don’t have their shit together any more than I do.
Be the best version of yourself. We are all a product of our environment and opportunities. We are all animals. We are all evil under certain circumstances. All any of us can do is be the best version of ourselves.
I’ve settled for a mediocre version of myself. Much better ROI.
Sounds like your just optimizing for efficiency over peak performance. That a form of “best self”.
