It didn’t used to be. At least for me and i don’t recall constantly seeing posts on social media about how lonely and sad everyone was or how to make friends. Now every other magazine article is about how lonely everyone is, nobody gets together, and gen Z doesn’t socialize, drink, or have sex.
Why is there such an epidemic of loneliness and why are people content to be lonely rather than socialize?
Why is so hard to connect? Because people having nothing in common anymore? I used to connect with people over books, movies, hobbies, etc. But now it feels increasingly hard to do that. Most folks I meet don’t care about any of that, they just mostly complain about their lives to you or go on political rants about how unfair the world is.
My friends and my dates no longer seem to watch films, or do much of anything other than spend time on social media? I dont’ use social media so I’m pretty ignorant of it all.
Politics is definitely a piece of it. Social media has placed it in front of everything. And now, given the amount of threat and violence in it, people do two things.
In most real conversations people dance around speaking about anything political, lest they reveal themselves. And they’re wholly unwilling to move forward with this other person socially until they know their politics. As such, nothing happens.
yes. i have noticed people now ask me straight up how i voted as if this is the most important thing about me, and sometimes when i say i am a democrat they get angry and tell me that i’m not because I don’t ‘look’ like a democrat. it’s super bizarre. also apart from politics i’ve noticed a huge uptick in people who ‘know’ things about me without ever asking me anything about myself.
it’s super duper weird. nobody cared about defining my politics by my face shape in the 2010s. and if you contradict people’s expectations they get ANGRY. they don’t listen to you or apologize.