I read people say online that Americans are loud. What does this mean, exactly? Is it literal volume or is it our personality/presentation? Something else?
I may be moving to Australia because of my wife’s job, and I want to better understand this. I want to assimilate and I don’t want to be annoying. I’m personally pretty low key and listen more than speak, but this is my perception of myself.
It’s the literal volume. In Germany you mostly recognize Americans because they are mostly louder than other people, for example in public places or transport.
Thats the image but it does absolutely not apply to everyone.
Others here have covered great points, especially that it is a physical loudness and presence.
I would add that everyone tends to be very knowledgeable about US culture, history, geography, politics etc from TV, films and news but with the “typical Americans” you are talking about, they know almost nothing about other countries or cultures. They might know very high level things like what Buckingham Palace is where the King lives but not much beyond that. The worst of the stereotype just don’t care and don’t show an interest in learning anything. It’s almost like a tick box to see certain things and then that’s their holiday done.
Slow an interest and curiosity and you’ll be fine. Look at what the locals are doing and try to copy them. If you go to London, everyone will stand on the right on escalators. Anybody with eyes can see that! Yet you’ll find so many people don’t look or care so get in the way.
Also, all countries have stereotypes that apply to most people but not everyone - the British are horrible binge drinkers who go for cheap beers in the sun. Im not like that but can certainly agree with the sentiment after seeing Brits abroad! Just sitting back and noticing goes a long way.
Shopping and service culture is very different. Most retail staff don’t have to welcome everyone, make small talk, fake an interest or have to stand up all day at a checkout to not be lazy. Restaurant staff often seem “rude” compared to America but in reality they’re just trying to do their job and we don’t always want the American style customer service. I’ll ask if I need help!
Billy Mays is an outlier and should not have been counted. He raises the average volume of the entire country
Another factor, there’s so few of you that escape the country (only 48% of you have a passport) that the only ones folks in EU mostly see are;
- the wealthy assholish ones 😡
- the plucky risk taking ones on holiday on a couple pennies and a dream 😁
- people here on business trips 😐
- the influencers 🤢
This is absolutely true. The American Dream carrot keeps us from spending and learning about others. If we did that, we might have some legit options that help the people. We don’t want that though!
Thanks for the reply!
As a Midwestern American, my girlfriend and I went abroad on a trip that happens to be where cruise ships dock. We did not take a cruise. However, the most annoying people we met on the entire trip were southerners from the US. Just everything about them was the worst. Every stereotype you can imagine was being presented. They were god fearing and cheeto loving, and they made it known. We weren’t even in the US, for fuck’s sake. The cherry on top, for me, was every single American store we passed on the tour bus, one of them had to yell the name of the store. “SAYAM’S CLUHHHB”…“WAYNDEES” Like, can you shut the fuck up? It was, right then, in that exact moment, it hit me like a bolt of lightning, no wonder people say Americans are loud and annoying. Because the vocal yokels absolutely are.
Oof. We Americans are such douchebags sometimes. Hello fellow Midwesterner! I’m in the Chicago area myself currently.
Thanks for your insight and anecdote!
Volume for sure, but also Americans seem to be largely incapable of experiencing silence. They tend to fill silence as if they love the sound of their own voice.
Obviously this isn’t all Americans, and my only experience of Americans are when they’re tourists.
You say you listen more than you speak so you’re probably fine. Even just asking about how to not be annoying shows you have more self awareness than any American I’ve ever met
Thank you so much for your reply!
The constant talking thing is definitely cultural. Americans get nervous during silence in conversations because we think there is something wrong like we’re not interesting or people don’t value us or something. It’s absolutely our own stupid hang up.
WHAT?
Just kidding.
There’s a range of actual volume, my boss I cannot hear half the time because he is quiet but a couple of coworkers have voices that really carry, it’s not exactly volume or not just volume, it’s throw.
Talkative we are, overall. Not everyone of course, but there is a lot of talking.
And pushy and curious we are, overall, too. I think that can read as loud too.
So here’s a Canadian answer.
I have found that, on average, Americans speak at a higher volume than folks from my country. At the same time, they seem more willing to share things that we wouldn’t except in more familiar company. I don’t think that’s necessarily a bad thing, but there are times when I would recommend a touch more discretion.
For the most part I think you’ll be fine in Australia. Just whatever you do, DON’T support Collingwood and DON’T drink Fosters.
Ha! Thank you for the comment.
Fosters? Seriously? When there are craft brews? I’m going to be drink the craft or wines…I just wish weed was legal.
Oh, just a note. Don’t look for a “pub” or a “bar”. For some obscure reason, a drinking establishment is called a “hotel”. I don’t know why but that’s the way it is. I spent about 45 minutes wandering around trying to find a place for a bite and a drink. Finally had to flag down a local.
Sometimes literally loud(New Jersey residents raise your hands), but usually also overbearing, painfully extroverted, having to control conversations, injecting themselves into what didn’t need them, etc.
I’m not judging from the outside. As an American that at one time was married to an Australian, we met when I was stationed there and we were both at the same base so I would see how my squadmates behaved then later when they had gone off to the racks, I’d get to hear the Aussie service members mock and laugh at some of the behaviors of the guys I came over with. They would joke that I had to be an immigrant because I rarely talked.
It’s not an “all Americans do this” type of thing, it’s that the Americans that do this are so impactful in a negative way that it becomes a cliched caricature. If you’re not that type of person, you won’t need to do anything to assimilate, you’ll fit in just fine. Those folks were some of the best people I’ve ever met in my life and they were very welcoming and inclusive.
Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply! Your last paragraph is pretty much what I was thinking, but I also wanted to gather some opinions.
I will just be myself and hopefully be one of the ones that leaves a great impression. I am finishing my masters degree in elementary education and I hope to eventually get a job teaching over there if we move. I am so excited to learn their culture and history. It’ll be an awesome experience to have my knowledge and learn theirs while sharing between us.
Let me put it this way: When I am in a restaurant/bar/pub/similar place, I can’t follow the conversations of the people at the other tables. However, with US-Americans, I understand every single word, even if they’re two tables over. Their normal conversational volume is just so much higher. To them, it is completely normal, and they don’t seem to notice. To us, they’re speaking very loudly, as if everyone were hard of hearing, or as if we were on a construction site.
Interesting. I’ll keep my volume in mind. Thank you for your reply!
The fact that you’re even asking this tells me that you’re more considerate than most. You’ll be fine!
Americans speak loud, you hear them from a faar and can spot them easily
Understandable. Thank you for your answer.
I think it just means louder that most (but not all) of the other people. I didn’t think much of it until I had some American friends visit me and I took them to bar near where I live. I didn’t really noticed anything while we were all sitting together.
When I crossed the room to go to the bar for another round, then I noticed that I could clearly hear my American friends voices above everyone one else in the room. I could clearly hear their conversation from across the bar. They were just speaking somewhat louder than everyone else.
Very interesting!
Someone else made a comment that I found interesting which was about how Americans usually speak far apart compared with other cultures that lower their voices and lean in. It has me thinking about how much space we have here and the ingrained competition which makes us naturally speak louder.
Another thing after talking to my wife is that there are a lot of large American families and children vie for the attention of others, which means having to speak up and over their siblings which sort of trains us to be that way.
It’s all fascinating to me to think about. Thank you for your answer!
Another thing after talking to my wife is that there are a lot of large American families and children vie for the attention of others, which means having to speak up and over their siblings which sort of trains us to be that way.
Mmmm, it’s a theory I suppose but I have a large family. Our dinner table is busy but not loud (except with raucous laughter which is semi frequently in fairness). Cross conversations go on all the time, it’s just the nature of lots of people at a table.
My own experience with American tourists is that it’s a volume thing. Interestingly I don’t recall noticing it as much while visiting the states but definitely slightly louder than other cultures.
Sounds like you won’t have any issue anyway.
Good luck with the move! I’ve never heard anyone come back from Australia with a bad word to say about it and lots of my fellow countryfolk do a year there (including my sister and bestie).
Thank you! I’m hoping we end up moving there because I loved my visit there a couple of years ago and I would love to be there always.
I flew back to America from Tokyo today and as a frequent traveler to Japan I can tell you it’s all of the above. As a very introverted, easily overstimulated person I love going to Japan because it’s my ‘quiet time’. Coming home I’m usually overwhelmed by the sheer noise of being in America.
- People simply speak louder than they need to here. In Japan you speak in a hushed voice unless it’s necessary to raise it. Also people aren’t afraid to lean in a little closer to hear what is being said to them. In America people stand 2 meters away from each other and have to speak loud enough for the whole room to hear
- People speak more and don’t value quiet time. In Japan you don’t speak on trains. Your inane conversation can wait. Its more pleasant for everyone if you just stay quiet. Then an American tourist boards and everyone in the car gets to hear all about their opinions on some anime whether they want to or not
- People tent to interject / interrupt more here
Hopefully this didn’t come across too much as venting. I can’t wait to go back.
Thank you for your answer! It’s definitely not coming across as venting. You have some great thoughts and the idea about standing further away when speaking really hits home to me as something I’ve been thinking might be part of the reason for our loudness as I’ve been reading other answers.
Thanks for the Tokyo insight as well. Our family has booked a trip to Japan this Fall, so we’ve been trying to brush up on culture and language as best we can so we aren’t total assholes over there. 😂
you will not be a loud American in Australia, they won’t allow you to be louder then they are
its bizzaro world down under
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I only visited Sydney and Cairns, but they were definitely not loud to me. They seemed the same as most Americans that I know. Maybe that’s the point though? I don’t notice how loud we are in actuality?
I don’t think you would notice just walking down the street. Try being in an environment where you actually deal with people consistently over time, such as a classroom, an office, or a place where you volunteer.
I went to Geneva, Switzerland when I was in college. There was a public square with about 1000 Swiss eating at different tables, all leaning forward like they were telling secrets. We 6 American college students were louder than all the 1000 Swiss in the square, by volume.
We 6 American college students were louder than all the 1000 Swiss in the square, by volume.
You noticed this and just kept going?
We figured it out eventually
I wasn’t even being judgmental. Just curious. I basically have a personality disorder because I have a loud voice and am kinda extroverted. But I think if I were to live in like L.A. I’d be considered introverted. Maybe average for like rural Minnesota.
Wow. Any reason why you kept going? If I noticed that then I would probably mimic others nearby.
Thanks for your reply!
We were just laughing and talking among ourselves as per usual. This was before cellphones.










