• 1st panel : spongebob in a stand caption reads “Single trans woman”
  • 2nd panel : a huge crowd gathered around spongebob
  • 3rd panel : spongebob adds a little paper on his table saying “I don’t use my penis”
  • 4th panel : the whole crowd left.
    • Chloë (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      3 months ago

      More than you would think, my previous partner evidently was. she was pretty great but never understood my bottom dysphoria. and always assumed I had “male” desires.

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      3 months ago

      Not trans but I think the issue is more that there’s a lot of chasers. My opinion comes entirely from the many I saw on Grindr so take that with a metric ton of salt.

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      3 months ago

      This is why I’ve personally dropped it. I can’t do HRT, bottom surgery is out, political trouble isn’t worth it, and I’ve already been turned down just for using the pronouns he/him. To add, I am in fact a bottom and straight. That little bit of self love doesn’t really feel worth it in my case.

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        3 months ago

        Please don’t take offense to this I’m just trying to follow: straight in this context means you’re attracted to?

      • Kit@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        3 months ago

        My experience is that gay men want penis and bi men want to bottom. I’m strictly a bottom so that’s probably not helping my chances.

    • Chloë (she/her)@lemmy.blahaj.zoneOP
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      3 months ago

      At some point I think it’s just better not to tell people you’re trans , like If you have a neovagina and pass there is literally no visible difference.

      • howrar@lemmy.ca
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        3 months ago

        That sounds rather dangerous. There seems to be a not-insignificant number of people who would get irrationally angry at being tricked into having “gay sex” and thus being turned gay, and the only way they know to ungay themselves is through violence.

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          3 months ago

          I dont understand how you guys think its okay to trick someone like that. How can you not respect a partner like that? How would it be irrational to be very upset by that?

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            3 months ago

            I say irrational to describe the degree of anger. Being upset about it? Sure. I don’t expect to understand it, but I can accept that it’s upsetting to some people.

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              3 months ago

              Non-consensual sex is pretty egregious… I hope you understand that.

      • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        3 months ago

        I have no desire to blend in to cishet society. I spent too long hiding in a closet to just get in to a new one, even if it is more comfortable than the old one

      • Norah (pup/it/she)@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        3 months ago

        Bottom surgery leaves a fair few scars, and neovagina’s don’t always function in the same way. This might work for trans women that are straight, but I doubt it would work for those that are sapphic. Someone’s going to notice if they’re eating you out (please enjoy my dumb joke about men not giving head).

        • Ada@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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          3 months ago

          I had bottom surgery 7 years ago, and my scars are pretty much invisible these days.

          That being said, I still don’t think people would mistake it for a cis vagina in the long term