• captainlezbian@lemmy.worldEnglish
              3·
              4 months ago

              I’ve found a cocky grin with a “hey” goes really far when hitting on dommes irl. But I also have fuckboi energy so it fits the vibe.

              For any fellow subs reading this, you hit on dominant women like any other woman. When it comes time to flirtatiously joke around, then you can make some jokes about being submissive, but you want to have the situation felt out enough that you’re confident that she’s flirting back and that she’s receptive to such jokes. You never want to come off as a pushy sub, a lot of dommes have bad experiences with them (hell, even I, a sub, have had one)

              • yetAnotherUser@discuss.tchncs.deEnglish
                3·
                4 months ago

                I’m not really relevant to your interaction but I thought it was a little cute. Not tactful, but the spirit was there.

                If I wanted to write a similar message like yours, I’d probably have done it like this:

                Let’s say I were to call you a “bitch”. What would your purely hypothetical response be? 🥺

                That’s:

                • less direct
                • playful (“If I were to insult you” is a very fun way to tease AND pretend to be an innocent little angel)
                • probing the water to see if they’re interested

                At least in my opinion. I’m terrible at flirting though so you may want to evaluate this yourself.