I’m a much less imposing but also hetero male but this also more or less lines up with me as well.
I’ve been of the opinion for a while that when faced with the idea that gender, as distinct from sexuality, is just a collection of social trappings, we’ve kind of gone in the wrong direction. Maybe I’ll get flak for this, but I largely agree with RuPaul’s take that gender and other identity stereotypes are absurd, and that it would be better to tear them down rather than affirm them or create increasingly specific labels to attach to people. A person’s gender doesn’t matter in the slightest to me with regard to my interactions with them, beyond the grammatical concern of using whatever their preferred pronoun is.
Whether you’re male, or non-binary, or agender, or whatever else you might identify as, I couldn’t possibly give less of a shit, and I want to stress that I mean that in the most accepting possible way rather than in a dismissive one. What matters far more to me is that you are Eric, or Rebecca, or Alphonse, or elucubra. I care about who you are, not what you are.
And maybe, maybe, if everyone was more accepting about a person’s individual identity and didn’t make a fuss about how they choose to present themselves we never would’ve seen all this importance attached to labelling people in the first place.
Years and years of therapy and I still do it: mansplain to women, compete with men. I understand that the gender is oppressive but I find it necessary to establish some form of understanding of the other before shaping it into something that looks like the person.
Agreed. Even if everyone is on the same page that wouldn’t happen overnight, but it really seems like we’ve just been further entrenching it rather than trying to move away from it.
I’m a much less imposing but also hetero male but this also more or less lines up with me as well.
I’ve been of the opinion for a while that when faced with the idea that gender, as distinct from sexuality, is just a collection of social trappings, we’ve kind of gone in the wrong direction. Maybe I’ll get flak for this, but I largely agree with RuPaul’s take that gender and other identity stereotypes are absurd, and that it would be better to tear them down rather than affirm them or create increasingly specific labels to attach to people. A person’s gender doesn’t matter in the slightest to me with regard to my interactions with them, beyond the grammatical concern of using whatever their preferred pronoun is.
Whether you’re male, or non-binary, or agender, or whatever else you might identify as, I couldn’t possibly give less of a shit, and I want to stress that I mean that in the most accepting possible way rather than in a dismissive one. What matters far more to me is that you are Eric, or Rebecca, or Alphonse, or elucubra. I care about who you are, not what you are.
And maybe, maybe, if everyone was more accepting about a person’s individual identity and didn’t make a fuss about how they choose to present themselves we never would’ve seen all this importance attached to labelling people in the first place.
Years and years of therapy and I still do it: mansplain to women, compete with men. I understand that the gender is oppressive but I find it necessary to establish some form of understanding of the other before shaping it into something that looks like the person.
Agreed. Even if everyone is on the same page that wouldn’t happen overnight, but it really seems like we’ve just been further entrenching it rather than trying to move away from it.
Among many many other things